Tuesday, January 4, 2011
I had a moment of deja vu today. I missed a call from Dan and he left a message. It went something like this: "Hey beautiful. I'm sitting outside the Napa Valley Coffee Roasting Company having a cup of the best coffee in the world. It's a crisp 50 degrees and the sky is California blue without a cloud to be seen.There's a wisp of fog in the hills and the valley is beautiful. The only thing missing is YOU!" Wow! Did that take me back 8+ years to phone calls like that almost every day. At the time, it seemed like we spent our days yearning.....for time to pass so we could be together, for days that we were together to slow down so we could make them last, for extra money and vacation time to make the whole long-distance thing work. This time, while I'm jealous and want to be in Napa, too, I also know that Dan will be home again in just a few days.
We spent a lot of time while we were dating reminding each other that "some day" this would all be behind us and hoping we would never forget to be grateful every day we were together. We've been married for 6 years now. We still remind each other how lonely we were and how lucky we are to be together. It's something we don't take for granted and I know that it was a difficult decision to make. There are some lines I read in A Thousand Splendid Suns that have always seemed to sum up Dan's decision to move to Florida "But it is not an easy happiness. It is not a happiness that is without cost."